Shifting the focus off of evaluating your performance and on..
Added 2020-09-21 04:35:24 +0000 UTCShifting the focus off of evaluating your performance and onto enjoying the sensations you’re experiencing is one of the keys to great sex. Live in the moment and think about the journey as a whole instead of mentally fixating on one destination: orgasm. Try to be present at every stage of the process from foreplay to climax and beyond. If you or your partner get stuck somewhere along the way—for example, perhaps your erection goes away—that’s okay. This doesn’t mean it’s not coming back! Shift to other activities like kissing and pleasuring your partner and try to clear your head. By tuning back into the physical sensations and tuning out the distracting thoughts, you’ll likely find that you’re “up” again in no time. And if your erection doesn’t return, you ejaculate early, or you don’t orgasm at all, remember that the experience can still be fun and enjoyable for everyone and that next time can be different.
