

Ideally, you want your partner lying flat on their back, legs spread but not too far apart. As a rule, her legs should always be closer together than farther apart, as she needs the full command of her pelvic muscles, Also, the back arch that we’ve all been taught is “sexy” according to porn and movies is actually not what aroused people do, and can cut off flow to the vagina and hamper breathing, both of which are important in getting turned on. Instead, when a woman is actually aroused, her back will be flat...and her genitals will be tilted slightly up. Basically the opposite of what we’re used to seeing.