Things to Be Thankful For - A Strong Partner Drew here. Be..

Things to Be Thankful For - A Strong Partner Drew here. Before we rev things up for a crazy fun holiday month here on OF and our lives in general I’ll close out November with one more moment of thanks and reflection . We were in the lifestyle before OF. We’d be in the lifestyle without OF. Perhaps we would have started an OF without being in the lifestyle. Elena has so much fun with OF she’d continue on sharing even if we weren’t in the lifestyle . We’ll soon celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. Whatever happened before and whatever happens in the future the constant is each other. You all get to see the highlights because posting a pic of a message from a play partner who cancels isn’t as interesting . A video from a hotel that we arrived at with no play partner in sight isn’t that thrilling . A solo pic of Elena after she’s been ghosted by a long term FWB doesn’t quite get get the excitement going. But all of that is the reality of the lifestyle . People don’t share the bad much like they don’t post pics of themselves working overtime on FB or their car crash on Insta. People don’t want to be bummed out , they want to see the good stuff and the fun stuff . In this lifestyle in particular you don’t hear many horror stories because when things go wrong usually the couple deletes their profile and disappear off social media . It’s the never resolved cliffhanger of what happened and before long their story is replaced by another fun couple having adventures in the lifestyle . Lest anyone think something’s wrong or we’re going away nothing could be further from the truth. We’re already thinking of fun ideas for M1.LF March on OF and we are certainly not getting out of the lifestyle until I get my double blowjob from two women (the least I can expect for learning how to suck cock for her for gods sake lol) . But we try to be as open and transparent as possible and it’s a reality that not everything in life goes as smoothly as possible It took a long long time for us to adapt a screening and verification for play partners that worked for us . There were a lot of fakes. We ran into people who looked nothing like their photos . We got hotels for no shows. We showed up at homes where the people there were definitely not who we chatted with . We were judged and ‘broken up’ with experienced lifestyle men who didn’t approve of us having multiple partners when they did the same . As quickly as confidence rises from sexy compliments about her pics, it’s as quickly taken away with every misfire . My only job is to protect Elena. Protect her physically and emotionally. Protect her from fakes , from users , from judgment, from disappointment . It’s led to me being a bit more curt and clinical and having a more active with partners at the beginning so she doesn’t lose that part of herself that wants to be happy go lucky and believe in people’s good intentions. But it’s worked out much better than it did in those early stages for sure. Sometimes disagreements can happen even when things go well. There have been times we didn’t agree on a partner . I would feel some type of way about possible loss of control and not give her the credit to know what’s best. Or the dreaded solo dates. They don’t do anything for me . I get zero satisfaction from hearing about an adventure I’m not present for or even watching the vids . She also feels something is missing when I’m not there . There are exceptions to every rule and things happen where solo was the only option but just as I look out for her she knows what and how I prefer for things to be handled in those rare times she’s done a solo. You need a strong partner to be able to do this. We say time and time again- communication , honesty and trust are keys and they are but you also need to be able to rely on your partner for when things go askew and it will go askew no matter how much you talk and prepare for things because you can’t ever predict human behavior. When we’ve gone a week or two and every regular partner has had plans and new people flake at the last minute it seems like an eternity when we aren’t able to have fun with others. And we don’t need to say a word. We know exactly what the other is thinking and we help each other from making those wrong choices just to break a dry spell. I’ve talked to and met many women in the lifestyle and it’s not to crap on them but I couldn’t imagine going through this with anyone other than Elena . She’s the reason why people we play with think we’ve been in this lifestyle for decades . Her personality and attitude and spirit shines . It’s a testament to her strength that while in reality there are those bad days that you will almost never know about them because she is too strong to let anyone else ruin her joy and her spirit. All I can do is give back to her all I can : my support, my encouragement and my positive energy so that she can feed off it Again, sorry that this was a bit more introspective than sexy but we’ve been messaged by people who learned more through us sharing mis steps than just sexy content haha. Speaking of which , wow , check those DMs for our latest PPV. What a way to close the month out. Over one hour of hot sex, completely uncensored with Elena, her FWB Mike and myself in a cameo And so much more great things to share in the coming weeks . Thank you all for caring