

Someone recently asked me when I became a masochist, so I thought I’d share my response: I’ve always been naturally submissive and masochistic around men I’m attracted to but I kept it hidden because I didn’t know I could apply it in a sexual context, I had no idea it was a thing that people did. So like most people, I was quite vanilla when I became sexually active. Then one day, I was in an argument with the first ever guy I dated and he said “watch your tone”, in a very stern way. And before I had the chance to react defensively, I was hit with a feeling I had never felt before; I felt instantly turned on and was like what the fuck, why is that so sexy. It was the wettest I had ever been. That was the moment I knew I liked being told off, degraded, disciplined. So then I started to deliberately wind him up; I was seeking punishment, and it wasn’t until I started researching BDSM that I knew “masochist” was exactly what I was. And since then I’ve enjoyed men doing their worst with me.