I can't even tell you the amount of dating profile bios I ha..
Added 2023-05-31 22:02:47 +0000 UTCI can't even tell you the amount of dating profile bios I have read along the lines of "I don't know why I am on here" and approaches to dating that are so negative and just defeated. It feels like dating has become a chore that no one wants to do but they still want the outcome. And I want to share some things I have learned from not only experience, but also from my desire to be a complete sponge and absorb knowledge.
From what I understand, we live in a world full of pain and traumatic experiences. We love to live in the past and hold on to our previous hurt. We love to approach new situations cautiously and with the desire to avoid any more pain and being vulnerable. That is perfectly human. It's scary. We all do it, that is our survival mode making sure we are okay. I think the problem stems from the mindset. We romanticize relationships through media, and have allowed society to dictate how 'the perfect' relationship should be and look like.
The truth is, there is no perfect relationship and contrary to popular belief there is no such thing as your significant other never hurting you. I have been through my fair share of shit and I tell you what, this was incredibly challenging for me to accept and normalize. Your significant other wields the power to hurt you more than anyone else, they know so much about you, you are vulnerable with them, you trust them. At the end of the day, they are only human and all humans make mistakes, even those that could hurt the ones they love the most. It's not about never being hurt again, it's about finding someone you truly vibe with and can be your complete and authentic self around them. Someone who will fully accepts you at all your faults and flaws and will encourage growth and strength. We are human, we are on a journey to figure out life and ourselves. So if I could only give out one piece of advice, it would be to embrace yourself and take the risk from a different point of view and mindset. Get out there, go on dates, be awkward, be bold, be nervous, shine bright.
