Hey! 😎 Ready to learn how to handle that nagging relationship anxiety? 🤔🤯 If you're feeling that sense of dread or insecurity in your relationship, don't worry, you're not alone. 🙌 In fact, it's completely normal to feel anxious at different stages of your love life. 💖 But don't let that anxiety control you or ruin your relationship. 🙅♀️ In my upcoming blog post, I'm going to spill the tea on what relationship anxiety is, why it happens, and most importantly, how to kick its ass! 💪 So stay tuned and get ready to take control of your love life! 😘
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🚨ATTENTION ALL YOU LOVERS 🚨
As a therapist, I gotta talk to y'all about the 5 love languages. So LISTEN UP!
👩🍳Acts of Service: This is when your partner does things for you, like cook dinner, do laundry, or run errands. Ya know, the sh#t you don't wanna do.🥹
Do y'all feel appreciated when your boo thang does this stuff for you?
🎁Receiving Gifts: Okay, this one is a no-brainer. Who doesn't love presents?! But the key here is that it's not just about receiving anything, it's about receiving things that show your partner was thinking of you. What was the last gift you got that meant something special to you?
⏰Quality Time: This means giving your undivided attention to each other. So put down the phone, turn off the TV, and BE PRESENT. Just being in the same room as your partner doesn't count. When was the last time you and your SO had a real date night?
💬Words of Affirmation: This love language is all about communication. Saying things like "I love you" or "You're amazing" can really make someone's day. What kind of things do you say to your partner to show them that you love and appreciate them?
🤗Physical Touch: And last but certainly not least, we have physical touch. Holding hands, hugging, kissing, sex (yeah, we went there) - it's all a part of this love language. Do y'all snuggle up on the couch or are you more into PDA?
Now here's the kicker...not everyone has the same love language as you. 🤯 You can also have more than one love language 😅 So, do you know what your partner's love language is? Do they know yours? It's important to understand each other's love languages and communicate in a way that makes both parties feel loved and appreciated.
So go ahead let us know your love languages in the comments 👇 How do you interact with someone who has a different love language than you? Let's talk about it. 💕 send me a DM if you prefer to share privately 🥰
Time to get you educated on the spicy 🌶️ topic of Nylon Fetish. This incredibly popular kink is all about the love for tights and stockings made of nylon. It might have started as one of the many sexual characteristics that develop at an early age, but Nylon Fetishes can be quite alluring!
🤔Did you know that Nylon Tights made their debut in 1940 and have since become a fashion staple? It's no wonder that the sensation of nylon fabric on the skin can create such a turn-on for some folks. And while most male fetishists prefer Nylon Pantyhose, others couldn't care less if it's on a man or a woman.😆
But let's talk about the elephant 🐘 in the room, shall we? 🥺 How can you talk to your significant other about your Nylon Fetish? Firstly, be confident 💁🏼♀️ about your desires! The pantyhose are not taboo, just a little spicy. Secondly, communication 🗣️ is key. Let your partner know what you need and give them time to process it all.
Remember, a Nylon Fetish is not 🙅🏼♀️something to be ashamed of. So, if you find yourself enjoying the touch and feel of nylon on your skin, embrace it 🤗 And if you need a little extra help communicating your desires, don't hesitate to seek the aid of a qualified therapist. At the end of the day, what really matters is that we all feel comfortable embracing our desires, whatever they may be.
Are you sick of feeling stuck in your same old patterns? Well, f*ck that noise! It's time for some motherfu*cking growth and change, baby! 🌱💥 But let's be real, consistent growth can be a challenge. So, here are some tips from ya girl (aka, me, your friendly neighborhood therapist) on how to kick a$$ and take names when it comes to personal development.
First off, set some goals! 🏆 What are you working towards? How do you want to show up in your relationships and in your life? Write that sh#t down and keep it somewhere you'll see it every damn day. Accountability is key, my friends 🙌🏻
Next, practice self-awareness. 🧘🏻♀️ Pay attention to your thoughts, your feelings, your behaviors. Notice what's serving you and what's not. And then, get curious! Why are you doing what you're doing? What's really driving those actions? Sometimes, the answer might surprise you.
And finally, embrace discomfort. 😬 Growth ain't always rainbows and fucking unicorns, y'all. It can be messy and painful and downright shitty. But it's also where the magic happens. So, when you feel uncomfortable, lean into it. Push yourself out of your comfort zone. That's where real change can happen.
So, there you have it, folks. Some kicka$$ tips for consistent growth and change. Now, go forth and fucking prosper! 🚀💪🏼
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How to make better decisions and reach your goals and objectives continued…
✔️Take action and adapt: Making better decisions requires taking action. Break down your goals into actionable steps and start implementing them. Be flexible and willing to adapt your approach if necessary. Remember, mistakes and setbacks are part of the learning process, so don't be discouraged by them.
✔️Remember, I am happy to provide guidance and support throughout your journey. Feel free to share more about your specific objectives or challenges, and we can delve deeper into finding strategies that will work best for you.
Bikini: @ofmerch 🥰
Many people struggle with mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, or PTSD. Swimming is a form of exercise that can be therapeutic for not only the body but also the mind.
If you're looking for a way to sweat out your frustrations and calm the f*ck down at the same time, then swimming might be just what the therapist ordered! 🩲💦💆♀️
As a therapist, I highly recommend swimming as a form of therapy. It's not just about the physical benefits, although those are definitely a plus. Swimming is a low-impact exercise that releases endorphins that make you feel good. It increases circulation and improves heart health, which can help alleviate symptoms of depression and anxiety. 🧠❤️
But there's also something about being in the water that can be transformative for some people. 🌊🌊 It's like when you're in the water, all your worries go away. You can't hear anything except for the sound of your own breath and the rhythm of your strokes. It's meditative, peaceful, and powerful all at the same time. 💪💆♂️
So if you're feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or just need some goddamn peace and quiet, come on out to the pool and get your swim on. Trust me, you won't regret it. And if you do, you can blame me. 🤷♀️😂
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How to make better decisions and reach your goals and objectives continued…
🥀Consider the long-term impact: When making decisions, think about the long-term consequences. Ask yourself how a particular choice will affect your future and whether it aligns with your overall objectives. This perspective can help you make decisions that are more sustainable and beneficial in the long run.
🥀 Trust your intuition: While gathering information and analyzing options is important, don't ignore your intuition. Sometimes, your gut feelings can provide valuable insights. Learn to listen to your inner voice and use it as a guide in your decision-making process.
Reality check y'all! As a therapist, I deal with expectations versus reality in relationships every day. And you know what? It ain't just about your significant other and their annoying habits (although we all know about those😆). It's also about the expectations we set for ourselves and others. 🥹
So, when some of y’all ask me to post more real life shots, I'm happy to oblige 😋👌🏼 But don't expect me to be in "sexy" lingerie all the damn time 😜 That's not reality, you know? Most of my real life consists of me rocking my medical scrubs or business attire (which, btw, can be sexy if you're into that kind of thing 😉).
Sure, I like to mix it up with modeling gigs and the occasional lingerie shoot, and all the other hobbies and gigs I do but that's not the norm, of what I do full time people. And let's be honest, do you really want to see me in my scrubs after a long day of dealing with clients? I didn't think so. 🤷🏼♀️
My point is, we all have unrealistic expectations at times. But it's important to recognize the difference between fantasy and reality. I can't be a lingerie-clad model 24/7, just like your significant other can't magically change all their annoying habits, and we certainly can’t change all of our annoying habits at least overnight 😅 So let's embrace the real – it may not always be pretty, but it's certainly more relatable. 💁🏼♀️
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How to make better decisions and reach your goals and objectives continued…
💠Set SMART goals: SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. When setting goals, make sure they are well-defined, realistic, and have a clear timeline. Breaking them down into smaller, manageable steps can make them more attainable.
💠Gather information and explore alternatives: Before making decisions, gather relevant information and explore different options. Consider the potential outcomes, benefits, and drawbacks of each alternative. Seek advice from trusted sources or experts when needed.
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How to make better decisions and reach your goals and objectives. For starters, it's important to assess your current situation and identify your goals. Are there any specific areas of your life where you feel you need guidance or improvement? It could be related to your career, relationships, personal development, or any other aspect. 🤔
Once we have a clear understanding of your objectives, you can start exploring strategies to help you make better decisions.
💠 Clarify your values and priorities: Take some time to reflect on what truly matters to you. Identify your core values and align your decisions and actions with them. This will provide you with a solid foundation for making choices that are in line with your authentic self.
❤️🩹Hey y'all, I wanna talk about something that we all struggle with at one point or another - CONFIDENCE.
❤️🩹First things first, let's acknowledge that building confidence is a journey, not a destination. It's gonna take time, effort, and a whole lot of self-love, but trust me when I say it's worth it.
Now, for some tips and tricks:
👉 Practice self-compassion - be kind and forgiving to yourself
👉 Focus on what you CAN do, not what you can't
👉 Take risks and try new things - nothing builds confidence like pushing out of your comfort zone
👉 Surround yourself with positive, supportive people - ditch the negative Nancy's and Debbie Downers
👉 Master a new skill or hobby - set achievable goals and watch your confidence soar
❤️🩹But here's the thing, babes - building confidence isn't about becoming a cocky son of a b*tch. It's about truly believing in yourself and your abilities, even when things get tough. It's about standing up for yourself, speaking your truth, and owning your worth.
❤️🩹So let's raise a glass (of sparkling water, no judgment here) to becoming our most confident selves! And hey, if you need a little extra support on this journey, I'm here for you.
💕I thought I'd chime in and remind you all of the importance of communication with your partner when it comes to getting freaky in the bedroom (or wherever else you may fancy).
💕You see, communication is key to creating a healthy and satisfying sex life. It allows you to express your desires, boundaries, and needs, and helps you both to explore new things in a safe and respectful way. Plus, it can be hella sexy to talk dirty and share your fantasies with your partner.
💕So, next time you're getting it on like Donkey Kong, remember that communication is the ultimate aphrodisiac. Get sassy, get silly, get bold, and most importantly, get talking! Because let's face it, no one is a mind reader, and who wants to leave their pleasure to chance?
Suns ☀️ out
Buns out 🍑
Finallyyyy time for a much needed break !
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🔥ATTN: Ready to take your sexual experience to the next level? 😉 Tantric sex is the answer! 🙌
This spiritual approach to intimacy involves slowing down and creating a deeper connection with your partner (or yourself!), resulting in an energy-filled experience that'll leave you feeling enlightened AF. 😇
So how exactly does one practice tantric sex, you ask? 🤔 Well, it involves techniques such as deep breathing, eye contact, and intentional touch all geared towards creating a sacred space of connection and intimacy. 🔮
😌But don't worry, you don't have to be a monk to master these methods! Start with setting the mood- dim the lights, light some candles, and put on some relaxing music. 💆♀️Then, take your time exploring your partner's body, focusing on their pleasure and breath. Remember, slowing down is key! 🚦
Have you tried tantric sex before?
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💝Q&A
💛Q: Our sex life is boring.What can we do about it?
💛A: Let's get real, folks. At some point in your relationship, things can become as dull as dishwater. You're going through the motions and there's no real spark in the bedroom. Sure, everything else is good, but the sex? Not so much.
💛But here's the deal: you need to admit it and talk about it with your partner. Trust me, if you don't, things will only get worse. Your frustration could turn toxic, and you might become emotionally unavailable. Yikes. 🥺
💛To avoid this, have a conversation with your partner. Don't blame them for the lackluster sex life - it's not that they're not sexy or capable, it's just that you need something more. And don't worry, you're not alone in feeling this way.
💛You may have tried everything to spice things up, but that only lasted so long. Enter tantric sex. It's all about connecting with the pleasure inside you and taking things to a whole new level. And hey, you can utilize toys and lingerie if that suits you…Win-win, right?
💛So don't let boredom get the best of you. Have a chat, try something new, and reignite that flame 🔥
Stay tuned for more on tantric sex 🔥🔥
Alrighty folks, Mindfulness 🧘♀️
💋let's talk about how to improve your sex life with some mindfulness. First off, you can ease in by practicing in a comfy, controlled environment or just go for it and test it out in the bedroom.
💋Take a sec to get your mind and body right before getting down and dirty. Maybe hop in the shower or do some yoga for a bit. Hey, if you only have a few minutes to spare, try out a mindfulness app or just focus on your breathing.
💋Now onto the fun stuff. Pay attention to those senses, baby! Feel the heat and pressure of your partner's body, notice the sounds and pace of their breathing, and definitely don't forget to revel in the sensations of your own body.
💋If your mind starts wandering off to your grocery list or whatever other distractions, bring it back to the task at hand - pleasure with your boo.
💋Don't be too hard on yourself or your partner - no need to fixate on perceived flaws. Take suggestions and ideas with open ears and explore new things with a beginner's mindset.
And finally, when all else fails, just breathe. Inhale slowly, exhale deeply, and let yourself relax into the moment. Enjoy the journey, y'all.
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It's that time of the year again - the day where we get to appreciate the man who's been there for us from the get-go. ( or the ones who stood in place and took on that role) You guessed it, it's Father's Day!
Let's talk about that for a minute. They're the ones who taught us how to ride a bike (and probably laughed at us when we fell), cheered us on at our sports games (even when we were the last ones picked for the team) and could fix anything with nothing but some duct tape and a little elbow grease.
Not only did they provide for us when we were growing up, but they also served as our role.models for how to be a stand-up guy in this crazy world. And let's be real, they taught us all the best dad jokes that we now love to share with our friends.
So on this special day, let's give them a little extra love and appreciation. Whether that's with a homemade card, a call, or maybe even a present (no shame in buying something off Amazon last minute). After all, we wouldn't be here without them.
And for all the new dads out there, you're now a part of this elite club. Get ready for the sleepless nights, the endless di@per changes, and the priceless moments that make it all worth it.
Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there - we appreciate you more than you know! Cheers to you, gentlemen! 🍻
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Hey there, curious minds! As a therapist, I get asked this question all the time: how often do married couples have sex? Well, the answer isn't straightforward, folks. It all depends on a bunch of factors.
According to a recent survey by Newsweek magazine, married couples have sex about 68.5 times a year on average 🤔. But that's just an average, and I know y'all don't want to be basic! So, let me drop some knowledge bombs 💣 on you!
Did you know that married couples under 30 get it on about 112 times a year?😱 That's some serious bonking! But as we age, our sexual desires and needs change, so it's natural for the frequency to decline. AARP revealed in their study that people older than 50 have less sex than younger people which isn’t all that surprising. And in the 70s, 36% of women and 33% of men have sex twice a month.
But wait, there's more! Sexual communication is crucial for sexual satisfaction. A recent study found a strong correlation between sexual communication and orgasms for women. So, don't be afraid to talk about it, folks! But I get it 😅 it’s not always the most comfortable conversation or topic for everyone, and sometimes what’s comfortable for you may not be comfortable for your partner.
All in all, there's no one-size-fits-all answer to how often married couples should have sex. It depends on each person's desires and needs. But remember, it's quality over quantity, folks! If you find yourself or your partner reaching for alternatives to satisfy yours or their needs it may be a convo that needs to be had. Sometimes it’s a matter of communication and making time for one another 🔥
So, go out there and have some sexy, satisfying fun with your partner!
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❤️ Do you have a habit of screaming, slamming doors, and turning into the Hulk when triggered? Well, guess what? These are learned behaviors that you may have picked up from previous abuse. Yup, that's right. The abuse could be still living through you, even if you've escaped the abuser. But don't freak out just yet, because I’ve got some tips to help you unlearn these toxic patterns.
❤️First things first - create boundaries. But wait, don't run away just yet! Creating boundaries is actually the easy part. The real challenge is rewiring your brain to subconsciously respond with healthy behavior. And yeah, it's easier said than done. But we've got a trick up our sleeve - the power of the pause.
❤️Before you react to any situation, take a deep breath and hit pause. This gives you time to process your immediate reaction and decide whether it's healthy or not. Are you reacting or responding? Big difference, folks. Trust me.
❤️Now, don't feel discouraged if you mess up a few times. Unlearning abusive behavior is a process that takes time. Eventually, healthy responses will become a habit and second nature. So go ahead, give it a try. Your future self will thank you!
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🌹Alright, fellas, it's time to talk about the real MVP of colors: red You know what they say, "red is the color of passion," and let's be real, it's pretty damn seductive. But why is that?
🌹Well, first off, red is a color that just can't be ignored. It's bold, it's daring, and it demands attention. It's the color of stop signs, fire trucks, and those little hearts you see on Valentine's Day. And let's not forget about the ladies, gentlemen. You see a woman in a red dress and suddenly your heart is racing faster than Usain Bolt.
🌹But it's not just about the physical reaction to the color. Red is also associated with power, confidence, and desire. It's a color that says, "I'm in charge," and "I know what I want." And let's be honest, what's sexier than a man who knows what he wants?
🌹So, whether you're wearing a red suit, driving a red sports car, or just adding some red accents to your home decor, you're tapping into the power of this seductive color. It's a color that says, "I'm bold, I'm daring, and I'm not afraid to take risks."
🌹So go ahead, embrace the power of red. Just be prepared for the attention that comes with it. Because when you wear red, you're not just making a statement, you're making a statement that demands to be heard.
🥵 Ready to upgrade your intimacy game with the 5 A's! Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, and Attention are the keys to unlock emotional fulfillment. Let's break it down:
👉 Acceptance: Embrace your partner for who they are, quirks and all. Some of that may take time, learning to embrace their “flaws” just and you learn to find ways to embrace your own. ( yes, I know it’s often difficult depending on the flaw but no one is perfect 🥹)
👉 Affection: Show your partner some love, whether it's a hug or a kiss - physical touch is crucial in building intimacy. Give them a complement 🗣️ When was the last time you told your significant other that they were sexy, or attractive?
👉 Appreciation: Take the time to tell your partner how much you appreciate them or you appreciate things that they do. A little thank you can go a long way!
👉 Approval: Everyone needs to feel validated, so don't forget to give your partner some positive feedback on their achievements.
👉 Attention: Be present in the moment and give your partner your undivided attention. Put those phones away and enjoy each other's company. I’ll say that again for the people in the back 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ PUT YA’ll PHONES AWAY 😜
Incorporate the 5 A's into your relationship and watch the sparks fly! 🔥
🪴Welcome to the social media platform that's not afraid to tackle the realities of sex and relationships head-on 👏🏻 As a therapist, I've seen it all, heard it all, and helped countless couples navigate the ups and downs of intimacy. And I'm here to tell you, folks, that when it comes to sex, porn is NOT the place to get your ideas and expectations from.😵💫
🪴Let's be real, porn is just a form of entertainment - like reality TV or video games. It's not meant to replicate real-life sex. Sure, it can be fun to watch, but it's not something you should base your sexual experiences off of.
🪴Here's why: For starters, porn is heavily scripted and edited. The actors and actresses are performing for the camera - not for each other's pleasure. The sex positions, moves, and sounds you see are calculated to look good on screen, and may not feel good in real life.
🪴Not to mention, porn often portrays unrealistic and sometimes downright harmful depictions of sex. From the unrealistic expectations of male and female bodies to the lack of attention paid to consent and communication, porn can set up some seriously damaging ideas about sex and what it should look like.
🪴So, my friends, I implore you: Don't get your sex ideas and expectations from porn. Instead, seek out real education from qualified professionals (like me 😅) who can help you navigate the sometimes bumpy road of sexual exploration.
🪴Join me on this journey to discover what really makes sex great - communication, respect, and a willingness to explore and learn together. And trust me, when you are able to look at porn for what it is .. entertainment and leave it at that it helps to minimize the line that often gets blurred between what is actual sex and intimacy in real relationships.
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